The Rollercoaster of Life

Grandma: "I always wanted to go again. You know, it was just so interesting that a ride could make me so frightened, so scared, so sick, so excited, and so thrilled all together! Some didn't like Read more

Sheltering at Home/Covid 19

Never in the last two decades of my career as a physician would I have imagined that we would be using the same mask to see patients all day and then sterilizing/recycling them at the end of the day. Read more

Turmeric Health Benefits

Have you ever wondered what the paste is applied to the bride and groom's faces and arms in Indian weddings?  It's actually the spice turmeric.  Turmeric is the ingredient in curry that gives it a vibrant yellow color.  Actually, Read more

COVID 19 Precautions

With the scare of COVID here in the USA now, I wanted to post a little info about boosting immunity to prevent contracting the virus. Here are some important facts about Covid-19 It is spread by contact with Read more

Natural Tips for Avoiding Colds

This cold and flu season is still upon us and unfortunately, many patients are still being plagued by these nasty viral symptoms.  Here are a few tips to try if you feel like you are coming down with something. Of Read more

Sherry's Story

Sherry has a great story.  She has been diabetic for years and she has made some massive changes!   "I have been on a lifestyle change. It has been a year following a ketogenic food plan.  When I started this journey Read more

Pharmacy to Farmacy

Many of you may know Erin-- the fabulous Pharm D that worked in our office a few years back.  Erin is a phenomenal gal and we embarked on the journey  into natural medicine around the same time.  As we both Read more

When Should I Take My Supplements?

If you are like me -- you are just starting to realize why it is important to add supplements to your diet.  Even if we are eating a clean, healthy and unprocessed diet;  the mineral content of the soil Read more

Family

Weathering the storm

 Today, Dee writes:

I knew when I started my 90-day weight loss challenge that I would have to eventually have to confront uncontrollable outside forces. I didn’t know it would be on Day 4. Yesterday as I was just to leave work, I received three simultaneous phone calls from the three other members of my family.

Caller #1

My oldest teenage daughter was livid after her little sister borrowed (without asking) her brand new Victoria’s Secret bra.

Caller #2

My youngest teenage daughter was crying hysterically because. she loaned the bra to a friend that proceeded to call her a rude bitch.

Caller #3

My husband called to say he was grounding them from their cars for fighting;  he was placing all their clothes in the garbage;  and was going out to “golf” for the night (AKA drink with buddies at the local beach bar).

That’s only Part one.

Part two involved my plan to tidy up the guest room for a weekend houseguest.  I came home and found it carpeted wall to wall in my daughter’s clothes.  I then received a text with photos of my father and little brother’s Southern Indiana property after a massive wildfire.

Due to guestroom cleaning demands, I cancelled a meeting with a friend from church who is currently withdrawling from Oxycontin.  This was all before 6 pm! Feeling exhausted from cleaning, stressed that my hubby was with bar friends, sad my daughter was bullied, and guilty for not helping my needy friend and brother, I caved and found temporary comfort in beer, chips and chocolate cake.  Prior to these outside forces attacking,  I had eaten squash, grilled chicken, a banana, and a pineapple-ricemilk smoothie for breakfast.

Note to self: set up a hurricane preparedness plan! Perhaps I’ll put my tennis shoes and shorts on tonight so that when things hit the fan I can walk out the front door for some aerobic relief. The closest liquor store is more than two miles away on foot so I should be safe.

 

Dear Dee—

 I can feel your pain with every word.  I’m not surprised that you finally gave in!  When I come home to chaos rather than the perfect fantasy of rest and relaxation that I daydream about, I go postal!  I will agree that a brisk walk after work does help.  I occasionally sneak one in before I even hit the door because I can’t remember the last time I arrived home to peace in the house. Remember, you didn’t make any of those bad choices—they did.  You can start fresh tomorrow with a revised attitude of self confidence because you are awesome!

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Obsession and Compulsion Strike Again!

As most of you know, I tend to be a bit obsessive/compulsive.  I am especially bad when I’m overstressed, tired, and when it comes to parenting.  I fell asleep on a Friday night after a long week while watching a movie with Sidney.  Eek!  I woke up still on the couch at 4 am and she had put herself to bed.  To most, this wouldn’t be a big deal, but for me, it was a catastrophe.  The next morning, crying my eyes, out to Tim;  I declared that I was the worst mother ever.  Sidney was going to ruin her kids because I was a failure parent;  she was headed to delinquency as an unloved preteen; and I would die without having anyone to pluck the black hairs off my chin  in the nursing home.   He cracked up and called me a nutjob.  “She’s 12, whats the big deal?”  Great!  World’s worst mom and nutjob wife who was obviously unloved because he clearly didn’t recognize the anguish I was experiencing.

Here is a little trick I have recently learned that has really changed my life (thank you Kim!)

She said, “When you walk into the grocery store with baby puke on your shirt, bunny slippers  on and your hair  a mess;  What crosses your mind when see  a patient of yours in Aisle 10?”  I replied, I think SHIT, I gotta get outta here because if they see me they are going to think I am either psychotic or strung out on heroin!

Then she told me about cognitive distortions.  When people with obsessive compulsive traits (I would say all mom’s) get stressed out and overwhelmed, we tend to distort our thinking and become paranoid.  Well I didn’t know what the heck that meant so I had to have her dumb it down.

Black and White Thinking –if your performance falls short of perfection, you think you are a total failure

Catastrophizing Things–exaggerating the importance of something

Mind Reading–arbitrarily concluding that someone is reacting negatively to you

So my grocery scenario proved I was distorting the reality.  I was thinking that if someone looked disheveled, they were obviously not ok.  I took my disastrous appearance and translated it to “psychotic and on drugs.”  Lastly, I assumed that the patient even cared what I looked like!  They were probably more worried about moving their candy bars to the bottom of the cart so I couldn’t see their unhealthy choices.

So I went back and rethought my meltdown about being a worthless parent.  Not tucking my 12yo into bed one night did not automatically make me a bad mom.  It didn’t  mean she was going to make bad choices.   Actually,  she declared me Best Mom Ever for letting her stay up so late!!!  And oops, sorry Tim, I guess the 2 hour lecture on how you didn’t love me was a little extreme considering I am a nutjob.

Thank God because I just plucked a black chin hair!

For more information on Cognitive Distortions–Read “The Feeling Good Handbook” by David Burns.  And when your next negative emotion enters your mind–ask yourself to rethink the reality of it.  Trust me, I do it on a daily and sometimes hourly basis.

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Man in the Mirror

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

~ Steve Jobs

I saw a patient in pain today– having been her doctor for the last 6 years.  I have watched her downward spiral into depression and chronic pain. My empathy overwhelmed me and I had her come into the office today for my form of a “Come to Jesus” intervention. Now in retrospect,  I feel my conversation was dead on arrival.
I’ve met many a soul that are so beaten down by the things that are out of their control, that they have given up and lost the insight into the situation. I’ve been there more times than I care to remember. Somehow, I have managed to pull myself out of the vicious cycle of pity and sef despair. I’m embarrassed to admit that the process has taken way too long to evolve in the past. Usually, a song, a person, or a self reflective moment in a state of fatigue has been the eye opener. I’m not sure she heard anything I said today, but I pray that she will trust that there are angels on earth, placed here to help us gain insight. God only knows that I’m no angel.  I do however have kindness as my king. On the opposite hand, I then saw a patient that is neglecting her own health out of fear and self abuse. She did hear my message thankfully.  She is someone who just needs to believe that there are some people in the world who still care. Every inkling of her being wants to pursue her dreams in lack of ignorant judgement. A very wise soul (my daughter, Ciara) recently told me a message that I will forever try to remember and maintain.  “I’ve learned that you can’t ever judge or shut someone out of your life until you have taken the time to hear their story. Sage like words from an 18 year old girl.   If you don’t want to be judged, then judge others less. We all say we don’t judge but I’m not sure that is really true. I am starting with the man in the mirror, because the best way to reboot your life and change the fallacy in the world is to change yourself.

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Going Postal!

After a long day yesterday in which I was tormented by the fact that one of my patients may have recurrent cancer, I arrived home and lost my mind.  At dinner, I threw back my chair, screamed at the top of my lungs and proceeded to bawl for a few hours.  “Mom is doing the best she can people!”   Moral of the story—-exercise when you are overwhelmed.  It may prevent you from spontaneously combusting  like me.

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“These are Dark Times there is no denying” -Rufus Scrimgeour

 

“Dark clouds may hang on me sometimes, But I’ll work it out” “Then I look up at the sky. My mouth is open wide, lick and taste” “What’s the use in worrying, what’s the use in hurrying?”  

— Dave Matthews Band

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The aroma of corn chips, baby milk, and old people

Sidney (12) endearingly told me as I was tucking her into bed one night: “Mom- you have your own smell.” In my mind, that meant that I had my own flowery, fresh, clean linen, homemade cookie kinda of mom smell. “Oh Sidney, that is so sweet. What do I smell like?” Her reply, “corn chips, baby milk, and old people” Wow! That was just about all I could say. Wow?! Another day in the life of the unappreciated mother with good intentions. Well, at least my therapist will have fun with this one.

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